JamieM
Extreme sharpness is ephemeral!
It's good when a book can make you rethink things. I was amazed at how much I took away from reading the book The Chimp Paradox; I only wish the book had been written 40 years ago. PS. You can teach an old dog new tricks.
Mark12
Guru
That’s a very interesting book Jamie
Zorro
Forum GOD!
I was told as a kid that you judge people only on what they actually say and what they actually do.
Was told that if you go off appearance / dress / colour then you are an ignorant fool and you will draw the wrong conclusions.
It has always seemed to work for me.
I think it fits in with "say what you mean and mean what you say"
Mark12
Guru
Sadly less and less folk appear to follow these kinds of mantras anymore but I still think there are more than you think out there who do
Twelvefret
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Thank you @Zorro , @JamieM , and @Mark12 for your response. The context was as a marketer would seek to understand how to reach a demographic rather than an individual. Then, we might adopt that approach in our personal lives instead of taking each person regardless of their demographic. A type of demographic might be seniors, single mothers, teens, single men, etc. There is a popular method of trying to fit people into a category.
murphy5542
Forum GOD!
Me and my wife were in a shopping arcade and stopped for a coffee . Sitting down we noticed an old man and his old faithful dog trudging past. He later appeared with coffee and placed it on a table, unfortunately there were no seats as place was busy, I tapped him on the shoulder and offered him my seat. I’m no youngster, but it felt right somehow.
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Mark12
Guru
You always struck me as a gentlemanMe and my wife were in a shopping arcade and stopped for a coffee . Sitting down we noticed an old man and his old faithful dog trudging past. He later appeared with coffee and placed it on a table, unfortunately there was no seats as place was busy, I tapped him on the shoulder and offered him my seat. I’m no youngster, but it felt right somehow.
murphy5542
Forum GOD!
You always struck me as a gentleman
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It just seemed the right thing to do, thanks Mark
Vacumatic
Testy
Many years ago I was in Chicago airport, there was a bus service between the aeroplane and the terminal which had a limited number of seats but a lot of standing room. I was one of the first on the bus and sat down. an elderly woman of colour came on the bus and was standing, I stood up and gestured to the seat with my hand and she sat down.Me and my wife were in a shopping arcade and stopped for a coffee . Sitting down we noticed an old man and his old faithful dog trudging past. He later appeared with coffee and placed it on a table, unfortunately there was no seats as place was busy, I tapped him on the shoulder and offered him my seat. I’m no youngster, but it felt right somehow.
I had some very strange looks from other passengers, not sure if the look meant, 'it is a journey of one minute, why bother' or something else, but as you say @murphy5542 it felt right.
JamieM
Extreme sharpness is ephemeral!
I would have done the same. Good manners and politeness cost nothing; even saying good morning to a passing stranger could start somebody's day off on the right foot.
Twelvefret
Forum GOD!
One of the ways to change others/society is to provide an example for which many of you are already doing.
Twelvefret
Forum GOD!
Another book I read is The Disappearance of Moral Knowledge by Dallas Willard. In the spirit of full disclosure, he was both a philosopher and Christian thinker. What I gathered from this book is that morality has not disappeared, but it is no longer taught as a body of knowledge. When I consider the actions of people in power, for me it validates the idea that there is a way to live that provides a good life by encouraging virtuous living.
Am I better off and have a better life by telling the truth and being kind? Can this be tested? What about anger? What about road rage? If I have a problem with road rage, for example and I decide to stop the practice, am I better off not having road rage. Is my life better? Our experiences would provide the evidence that there is knowledge possible. If this occurs, I could teach others based on that knowledge.
When you live in a society where morality cannot be taught because it is not considered a body of evidence, what happens to the next generation. If I tell you need to tell the truth or stop lusting after your friend's wife, you can tell me I have no basis. We are just left with our own opinions. I think everyone is better off if I stop lusting after someone's spouse and I think I can prove it.
Am I better off and have a better life by telling the truth and being kind? Can this be tested? What about anger? What about road rage? If I have a problem with road rage, for example and I decide to stop the practice, am I better off not having road rage. Is my life better? Our experiences would provide the evidence that there is knowledge possible. If this occurs, I could teach others based on that knowledge.
When you live in a society where morality cannot be taught because it is not considered a body of evidence, what happens to the next generation. If I tell you need to tell the truth or stop lusting after your friend's wife, you can tell me I have no basis. We are just left with our own opinions. I think everyone is better off if I stop lusting after someone's spouse and I think I can prove it.
TobyC
Patriot
I said good morning to a cat this morning, as I do every day, she seemed pleased.
She was a feral who had kittens on our front porch, we took her and the five kittens in two or three years ago and they're still here.
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JamieM
Extreme sharpness is ephemeral!
Good for you, but somehow I don't think cats can grasp what 'good morning' means, unless you hand over a bird, a mouse, or some food.I said good morning to a cat this morning, as I do every day, she seemed pleased.