I'm Falling Apart

I'm only 56 but it seems lately that I'm falling apart. I like to bike and have been doing some road riding off and on over the last several years. Last August I decided I would take a ride on my mountain bike on the trails in the 2,000 acre park up the road from my house. I hadn't been on the mountain bike since my son was 3 years old, about 12 years ago. Long story short, I fell, going over the handlebars. It was sort of slow motion so I was able to catch my upper body with my arms and broke my fall but my legs came down on something. Maybe a rock or the bike itself. Anyway, I ended up with a large hematoma on both legs, one of which has healed up. But the other on my right leg is still there. It is located on my right leg on the outer side of my lower leg below my knee. It was severely swollen for a couple months after the incident but began to benefit from reduced swelling. Now when I wake up it is almost the size of the other leg. The problem is that no matter what I'm doing, by mid day my ankle, foot and lower portion of the lower leg swell up noticeably. I had had a scan to check for clots about a week or so after the incident and all was clear. But I've made another appointment to go back when he gets back from vacation, a couple weeks from now. So, my neighbors have been holding a "keg tap" the night before the Super Bowl, this being the 11th Annual Keg Tap. We hang out in my neighbor's back yard and we sit around a fire pit and drink into the wee hours. The "bathroom" is against the fence behind a little hut. I'm on my way back from the "bathroom" and I failed to remember the small little garden fence that was near the hut and ended up tripping on it and down I went. And damn it if I didn't fall hard on my legs. This time I fell on my knee of the same leg that hasn't healed properly and I also did a little number on my other leg just above the ankle. That one is sore but not very swollen. But the knee is another story. I swelled up considerably. I finished the night and spent a fair amount of time flexing the knee so I knew I hadn't broken anything like the knee cap. Fortunately I was able to get to bed without the benefit of pain killers. The next day I iced up the knee for much of the day. It is still fairly swollen but it hasn't tightened up on me like I thought it would.

What's the point in all this rambling nonsense? I am probably 40 to 50 pounds overweight and the last 6 months of sedentary existence is not helping me. I reflect on this more recent trip and fall as something that may not have happened if I was in better shape, did not have all that extra weight around my gut and was more agile from working out. I guess what I'm saying is, I darn well better get off my butt and do something about this otherwise the next 10 years will likely be a down hill roll, speeding up the older I get. I realize that it's all down hill from here anyway, but there are things we can do about it and I've realized that I need to change the fact that I'm not doing anything about it. Pardon my rant. And if you are still reading by now? Thanks for your time.
 
It's good to see you reaching out, you should - I hope - be amongst friends here. I'm European so for us that's 20 kilos you need to lose. I don't think the first 10 kilos (25lb) are as difficult as the rest of it. I've lost 10 kilos before and just recently and it wasn't rocket science. But it WAS a question of very clever dieting. You HAVE to eliminate some things completely and you HAVE to make substitutes. Alcohol isn't impossible but not more than half a pint a day or a glass of wine. Bread is very fattening and that has to be cut out almost completely. Substitutes are couscous, which is easy to cook for 3 minutes in the microwave, or maybe calculated amounts of brown rice, or oat/rye crispbreads. Potatoes only rarely, cut down on fried and use the oven or microwave. Forget cheese. Plenty of vegetables, but watch fruits with higher sugar content. Meat and fish are good, and a couple of eggs in the morning. I do them in the microwave for 1 minute 10 seconds, broken into a bowl with olive oil. You have to chop up the yolks a bit or they explode. Very tasty. As you probably know you need to be aware of Type 2 diabetes when you're overweight, and a low carb and zero added sugar diet is exactly what's needed for that. If you have people in the house who have diets that don't agree with this, then it needs negotiation and honesty - no pinching their food. A separate refrigerator may help. But believe me, it's worth it. If you can afford it, I would get a diet coach to start you off. Some life coaches specialise in weight loss and they can be very inspiring. The first step is to believe completely that you can do this, otherwise nothing happens. PM me if I can be of any help.

Good luck!
 
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Wayne

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I'm exactly in the same boat, I can lose weight easily when in the mood, I can put it back on just as quickly but at the same age as your good self getting off my backside and pounding a treadmill in a gym full of Charles Atlas and Naomi Campbell lookalikes who are 40 yrs younger doesn't appeal. When I lose weight I'm happier, more social and just a better person. The first stage is easy. Admitting you have a weight problem and deciding to sort it. The second stage, actually doing something about it, not so much.
At 56 you, like myself are old enough the difference between a healthy piece of fruit and a doughnut or a glass of Wine and a gallon of Ale.
Little changes make massive differences. Oatmeal for breakfast with a Banana, A handful of Grapes for mid morning snack, a Salad for Lunch, 90% veggies and a bit of protien for Evening meals and saving the alcohol for a Sunday treat will go a long way to sorting you and myself out.
You and I can do it. So let's do it, and if anyone else wants to join in I'll set up a support post in the locker room with starting weight and weekly weigh in's to help us along. No one knows us to look at so it's as annonymous as you can get so there is no embarrassment in the starting weigh in.
Anyone up for it?
 
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It's good to see you reaching out, you should - I hope - be amongst friends here. I'm European so for us that's 20 kilos you need to lose. I don't think the first 10 kilos (25lb) are as difficult as the rest of it. I've lost 10 kilos before and just recently and it wasn't rocket science. But it WAS a question of very clever dieting. You HAVE to eliminate some things completely and you HAVE to make substitutes. Alcohol isn't impossible but not more than half a pint a day or a glass of wine. Bread is very fattening and that has to be cut out almost completely. Substitutes are couscous, which is easy to cook for 3 minutes in the microwave, or maybe calculated amounts of brown rice, or oat/rye crispbreads. Potatoes only rarely, cut down on fried and use the oven or microwave. Forget cheese. Plenty of vegetables, but watch fruits with higher sugar content. Meat and fish are good, and a couple of eggs in the morning. I do them in the microwave for 1 minute 10 seconds, broken into a bowl with olive oil. You have to chop up the yolks a bit or they explode. Very tasty. As you probably know you need to be aware of Type 2 diabetes when you're overweight, and a low carb and zero added sugar diet is exactly what's needed for that. If you have people in the house who have diets that don't agree with this, then it needs negotiation and honesty - no pinching their food. A separate refrigerator may help. But believe me, it's worth it. If you can afford it, I would get a diet coach to start you off. Some life coaches specialise in weight loss and they can be very inspiring. The first step is to believe completely that you can do this, otherwise nothing happens. PM me if I can be of any help.

Good luck!
Thanks for the reply. I agree with you about much of what you say. Diet is definitely critical but so is exercise. I feel that losing weight is monumental if you rely upon only one or the other. But if you do both, the weight can melt off. I say that because I've been able to do it in the past. As for diet, I already have made a habit of having oatmeal in the morning. I get a High Fiber oatmeal which helps even more. I'll also have a couple eggs over easy and instead of using butter I use olive oil. I agree that bread is not a dieter's friend but I'm already only eating multi-grain bread and limit myself to about a slice or two a day for a sandwich. The two slices can give me 6g of fiber. What has worked for me is counting calories. If I count my calories while I'm also working out, I begin to feel guilty if I cheat and that has been a good deterrent for me. My problem has never been an issue of not knowing what is good for me and what isn't. I have a pretty good understanding of what I should and should not eat. My real problem is that I tend to forage or graze all day as I work from home. So I'm stuffing my face with all kinds of garbage that was meant for my 15 year old son. I have to cut that stuff out totally. The hardest thing for me to cut out that you mentioned is cheese. I LOVE cheese. ALL kinds of cheese, including your simple basic American Cheese. I can just peel off slices of American cheese and eat them one after another until I've eaten 1/4 or 1/3, or even 1/2 pound of the stuff. It's the fat. I love fat. It's what I love about a NY Strip Steak, all that marbling in there is delicious. And as far as exercise is concerned, I have absolutely NO excuse given that we have a high end elliptical machine and a universal weight machine, both in excellent condition in our basement. I actually used to have a personal trainer come to the house but I grew to absolutely hate that. I have learned that I have to be self motivated. Otherwise if it's forced on me, I rebel. I have to keep it in my mind that I want to be around for my son and hopefully grand kids in the future and my wife. And I want to be able to enjoy traveling, which is difficult to do when you are in poor shape. Some of my best times were wandering around London and Paris and Geneva when I was in better shape. And I'd like to be able to do some backpacking with my son if he is so inclined. God knows I have all of the best high end gear from my younger days that I can make use of. Fortunately I go to the doctor for regular check ups and know exactly how bad my health is. High blood pressure. High cholesterol. I'm taking stuff for both of those things but my goal should be to get to a point where I can eliminate one of both of those through better lifestyle choices.

I'm exactly in the same boat, I can lose weight easily when in the mood, I can put it back on just as quickly but at the same age as your good self getting off my backside and pounding a treadmill in a gym full of Charles Atlas and Naomi Campbell lookalikes who are 40 yrs younger doesn't appeal. When I lose weight I'm happier, more social and just a better person. The first stage is easy. Admitting you have a weight problem and deciding to sort it. The second stage, actually doing something about it, not so much.
At 56 you, like by myself are old enough the difference between a health piece of fruit and a doughnut or a glass of Wine and a gallon of Ale.
Little changes make massive differences. Oatmeal for breakfast with a Banana, A handful of Grapes for mid morning snack, a Salad for Lunch, 90% veggies and a bit of protien for Evening meals and saving the alcohol for a Sunday treat will go a long way to sorting you and myself out.
You and I can do it. So let's do it, and if anyone else wants to join in I'll set up a support post in the locker room with starting weight and weekly weigh in's to help us along. No one knows us to look at so it's as annonymous as you can get so there is no embarrassment in the starting weigh in.
Anyone up for it?
I too hate going to the gym. My wife belongs to the gym and I did as well but I never went so we dropped me from the membership. No sense in blowing $100 a month if I'm not using it. I found that using the elliptical in the basement during the winter months I can make it more effective by not just doing a straight constant speed on the elliptical but doing intervals. What worked great for me was going a decent pace for 4 minutes and then go as fast as I can for 1 full minute and repeat that until I've been on the machine for an hour. I found that to be a great workout and I lost weight doing it. Then when the weather warms up I'll be ready to hop on the bike and do 20, 30 or 40 mile rides. And maybe then I can drop enough weight to get back on the mountain bike. I realized that at my current weight, I'm just a large sack of potatoes trying to balance on top of two wheels while bouncing over rocks and tree roots. I'm in for tracking my progress and getting engaged in dialogue to keep us all motivated.
 
You and I can do it. So let's do it, and if anyone else wants to join in I'll set up a support post in the locker room with starting weight and weekly weigh in's to help us along. No one knows us to look at so it's as annonymous as you can get so there is no embarrassment in the starting weigh in.
Anyone up for it?
I used to do group calls on Skype when I was doing my coaching qualifications, and that could work. More private and real-time conversations.
 

Steve Bowles

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Ave, brother. I'm 69 and probably 40 pounds overweight. I hit a high of 250 pounds. I lost 60 pounds by eating only one meal a day. I got down to 180, but put 40 pounds on for no reason at all. I have an electric bike that I try to ride, but the first time I got on it I tipped over and landed square on my left hip on the road. That was a good 8 months ago and I still have pain throughout the day. I try to use some Nordic poles for walking (sporadically), and do what I can, but the weight seems to be a part of me now. They say your body finds a weight it likes and sticks with it. The gym for most people is a total waste of time. Research says that only 10% of gym users see any permanent (or temporary) improvement. You can't exercise the weight off at our age, and the only reasonable way is through a ketogenic diet. It works as long as you only consume 500-800 calories a day -- much like a Japanese prisoner of war in WWII. The problem is that as soon as you start eating real food again, the weight comes back. Doom and gloom, but that's the reality of late middle-age. My wife has a similar problem; she read that excessive chocolate and alcohol consumption exacerbated the aging process. She immediately decided to stop reading.

Buy an extremely expensive and OTT razor and stop looking in the mirror.
 
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Wayne

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I've danced all most of my adult life, Northern soul. I kept it up virtually every weekend until now. I've put so much weight on my knees can't take it. It's killing me being sat down when my favorite songs come on. So even before I read this post I started on my weight loss shakes. 600 calories a day and 8 pints of calorie free liquid.
Yes I know it's not healthy, Yes I know I should eat healthily and lose weight 1 pound a week, yes I know it will come back on when I stop but for me it works. Oh and I know it's a quick fix yo yo diet. I know all the con's. 4-5 pounds per week loss and in the first week almost a stone ( all water, I know) is a damn sight more appealing to this butterball.
 

Steve Bowles

Forum GOD!
I've danced all most of my adult life, Northern soul. I kept it up virtually every weekend until now. I've put so much weight on my knees can't take it. It's killing me being sat down when my favorite songs come on. So even before I read this post I started on my weight loss shakes. 600 calories a day and 8 pints of calorie free liquid.
Yes I know it's not healthy, Yes I know I should eat healthily and lose weight 1 pound a week, yes I know it will come back on when I stop but for me it works. Oh and I know it's a quick fix yo yo diet. I know all the con's. 4-5 pounds per week loss and in the first week almost a stone ( all water, I know) is a damn sight more appealing to this butterball.
I bet dancing in a thong isn't so appealing any more.
 

Steve Bowles

Forum GOD!
I've danced all most of my adult life, Northern soul. I kept it up virtually every weekend until now. I've put so much weight on my knees can't take it. It's killing me being sat down when my favorite songs come on. So even before I read this post I started on my weight loss shakes. 600 calories a day and 8 pints of calorie free liquid.
Yes I know it's not healthy, Yes I know I should eat healthily and lose weight 1 pound a week, yes I know it will come back on when I stop but for me it works. Oh and I know it's a quick fix yo yo diet. I know all the con's. 4-5 pounds per week loss and in the first week almost a stone ( all water, I know) is a damn sight more appealing to this butterball.
I lost 60 pounds (4 stone) in four months on LighterLife. Two weeks after stopping the shakes I started putting it back on. You can't fight nature.
 

Wayne

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I lost 60 pounds (4 stone) in four months on LighterLife. Two weeks after stopping the shakes I started putting it back on. You can't fight nature.
I did the same, granted you cannot fight nature but you can't give up either, if I do I doubt I have ten years left before my heart goes BANG!
 

Steve Bowles

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I did the same, granted you cannot fight nature but you can't give up either, if I do I doubt I have ten years left before my heart goes BANG!
I've had two heart attacks -- first one before I started LighterLife, the second one after I stopped LighterLife. No telling how many I would have had dancing with Northern Soul.
 
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